Be who you want to be. Don't let the world define you.

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Quick disclaimer : "I wrote this article to remind you how exceptional and enough you are right now. Define yourself."


Our main goals in life should only be : to become better versions of ourselves and to define ourselves according to our goals and aspirations.

We actually live in a world where we tend to let society, actual trends and people around us define ourselves.

Speaking of the people around us, there are three types of people that we listen to the most in our lives :

1. DON'T LET YOUR PARENTS DEFINE YOU

Most parents have a tendency to put their expectations on their children. I know that parents want the best for their children but some can put a lot of pressures on them, by wanting them to become what they couldn't become themselves in their lives.

2. DON'T LET YOUR FRIENDS DEFINE YOU

This won't apply to you if your friends/acquaintances are real, good to you and push you to strive successfully in your life.
If you have those "friends" that are nowhere to be found when it's time to celebrate you or your success, GET RID OF THEM. THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS.
Remember that most of them want you to succeed, but not better than them. The worst of them doesn't want you to succeed AT ALL.
Don't let them and those who think they know you better than you know yourself define you.

3. DON'T LET YOUR PARTNER DEFINE YOU

A toxic or jealous crush/partner can quickly stop you in your greatness or/and do everything to control you and define you. Some partners want us to become their IDEAL women. And let me remind you that a great boyfriend will take you AS YOU ARE and encourage you to become a better version of yourself.

Girl ? You are your own being, with your own fingerprints, your unique qualities and flaws, aspirations and goals. You cant be defined by what others think about you. No approvals needed. You are free to ask for advice but don't let them do what they want to you.

Start your to write your book, exercise, start taking classes in the field of your choice, plan this/these trip(s), create this youtube channel, create this blog etc.


BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE. DON'T LET THE WORLD DEFINE YOU.

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